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How to Meet & Date Older Women: The Manual

How to Meet & Date Older Women: The Manual

Have you been interested in older women and don’t know where to start?


Have you had a few false starts with older women and don’t know what you’re doing wrong?


This 40+ page, downloadable manual contains everything YOU need to know in order to find, meet and date older women. 


I’m Patsy, aka Hella Cougar. I’ve been dating young men exclusively for almost 4 years now. I’ve also established some strong social media platforms centered on my cougar life and adventures. As you can imagine, I’ve interacted with thousands of young men searching for older women, and The Manual is based on my and their experiences. 


Here’s a sneak peak of what’s in The Manual.


  • Introduction to the foundational Pool of Older Women and why all of my work is based on this theory of appealing to the broadest range of older women
  • Why older women like younger men and why younger men like older women
  • Myths about older women
  • What do I call her? (mommy, milf, cougar, mature)
  • The basics of adult conversation and relating to older women
  • Where to find older women
  • Is she interested and available?
  • How to approach in various scenarios (bar, dog park, grocery store, smoothie bar, gym)
  • Comebacks to the classic “you’re old enough to be my son”
  • First date ideas
  • The online approach, including dating apps
  • How to slide in on dating apps and on Insta (cold)
  • Dos and Don’ts of messaging older women
  • A workaround to game the online dating system
  • How to approach and navigate sex with older women
  • How to navigate issues and insecurities that arise (or don’t) in the bedroom
  • A discussion on sugar moms


Download The Manual today! It’s backed by my 14-day money-back guarantee.

  • Return and Refund Policy

    If you’re unhappy with The Manual, you’re welcome to request a refund within 14 days of receipt. For returns, send an email to with constructive feedback, and I’ll happily return your money.

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